Demand something you haven’t before
Something that you want. But start small. I.E do the dishes. Or clean the bathroom. Make sure you check their work when complete and it is to your standard. Make sure they know if they did a good job. If they didn’t make them do it again and again until you are happy. Don’t let them backchat/whinge/moan, if they do, Nip it in the bud verbally, tell them who is boss. Finally when happy with the results. Verbally and physically show them you are happy with the result, give them some flirting, sex, a kiss, whatever. Remind them they did well and make it memorable.