Gentle Femdom

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Source: Gentle Femdom: 101 Awesome Kinks and Tasks To Get You Started – femalereverence.com

When talking in the BDSM community so much of it focuses on power exchanges, and punishments that are feted out if a dom or domme is displeased.

However, this is not the only reason to like a power exchange dynamic within a relationship.

Many people would like a form of femdom, without the extremities normally associated with it. They want to practice a a gentler kind of femdom, if you will.

What Is Gentle Femdom

Dissecting the phrase, gentle is obvious and femdom is just a contraction for female domination.

So, in essence gentle femdom is female empowered domination of a male that will typically not include the pain or humiliation aspect of punishments. It appeals to kinky submissives rather than lifestyle choices.

Often abbreviated to GFD, it can also be known as caring domination.

Practitioners of the art, think of this as a more affectionate domination that relies on more positive reinforcement to get the sub to comply. If punishments are to be administered, they are light and easily accomplished.

Think, mowing the lawn or washing up naked rather than whips, torture and canes that leave red marks.

For many, this is a much better practice. As an advantage it can be practised anywhere. The domme sets tasks that are not humiliating, and thus don’t look out of place in public.

So the female is in charge with gentle femdom, but uses natural authority, the submissive’s desire to please, along with positive reinforcement for tasks completed. She does not cane, or otherwise hurt her sub, but can seek to express her sexual preferences more dominantly. The domme can get her sub to excite her, by dressing or teasing the sub. Light acts of kink are generally accepted within her authority.

Gentle femdom can be kink based, lifestyle based or within the confines of roleplay. However, a sub may well perform tasks outside confined times if the reward is right.

There is very much an erotic component to gentle femdom that many find highly attractive.

The key to gentle femdom is to set limits, know each others likes and dislikes and be aware of where the authority truly lies.

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